Today in My History
Me a Grape
Bev's 65 x 365
Cast (updated 7/16)
3 March 2021
It's a busy week, oddly enough. Busiest week in, maybe, a year!
On Monday I had my annual dental appointment (Cindy says "looks good," which she hasn't said to me in years). Ned drove me to the dental office and made an appointment for himself, since he needs a new dentist.
On Tuesday, I had an eye appointment in Sacramento. This was a re-do of an exam to check for signs of diabetic retinopathy. My doctor wasn't happy with the pictures they took last time and wanted them done again. Ned took me and went ahead of me up the stairs, while I took the elevator, so he could see which end of the hall I had to register in (last time I ended up going back and forth)
Today Walt and I get our second vaccine, in Sacramento, and Ned will be driving us.
On the way to Sacramento yesterday, I thanked him for all of his chauffeuring. I don't think I have driven a car in a year. Walt and I have gone a couple of places (the bank, mostly) and Ned took me to the supermarket once, but whenever I go somewhere, he's there to take me. He also backs the car into the driveway because it's on a slant and he noticed that it's easier for me to get in when I'm facing downhill than uphill, and though I can get in uphill just fine, I really appreciate the extra effort to turn the car around.
In all honesty, I am glad that he is doing the driving. I haven't been comfortable driving around town in some time, and haven't been comfortable driving on the freeway in years.
Something weird happened the night Gilbert died, in 1986. We got the call saying he had died and it was around 9 p.m. His family was going to fly out to San Francisco the next morning. I once asked him what his family thought of his being gay and he said "As far as I know, they don't know it."
So I drove down to San Francisco that night to "de-gay" his house (I had a key) so his family wouldn't find anything embarrassing.
But something happened on that drive -- and I don't have a clue what it was -- but ever since then -- and we're talking 35 years! -- I have been uncomfortable on the freeway, especially if I have to drive by big trucks. In fact, I almost always drive in the slow lane and when Walt learned how uncomfortable I am with trucks on my right side (I am convinced that I will die when a big truck rolls over on me) he always makes sure not to drive next to big trucks.
I'm still not completely comfortable on the freeway, even with someone else driving, but I mostly either shut my eyes or read, so I can't see the freeway.
So I am grateful that Ned is doing the driving. I'm at the age where many adult kids are trying to figure out how to take their parents' car keys away from them, and that's a discussion Ned doesn't have to have with me. I could still drive if I had to, but I'm glad I don't have to. Walt still drives, but he usually rides his bike around Davis and is happy to have Ned do the driving when we go out of Davis.
Ned says this is why he and Marta moved in here, for just this sort of thing. He said he has followed me on the freeway a few times and noticed that I was uncomfortable with cars coming up next to me, and saw me move my car to the right and sometimes too far to the right. I was not aware of that, but it's one of the reasons why he took over driving whenever I need to go somewhere.
He has also become my sous chef. Whenever it's my night to cook, he takes the recipe I'm going to be cooking and gets all the ingredients on the counter for me and cuts up anything that needs to be cut, so all I have to do is assemble it in a pan and cook it.
He is so considerate, and so aware of problems I might be having and how to make them better. We are so lucky that he and Marta decided to move in here. I hope he doesn't get tired of taking care of us!
I looked into the box of oranges this
morning and see that there are only 3 left. the squirrels have eaten about
1/4 of a box of oranges over the past couple of months!
PHOTO OF THE DAY
squirrels leave behind orange peels
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