Today in My History

2000:  This One Takes the Cake
2001:  There's No Place Like Home
2002:  Notes to Myself
2003:  With Friends Like This...
2004:  The God of All Fruit
2005:  My Travel Secret
2006 Lemrel
2007: We have VIDEO again!
2008:  New Toy
2009:  I Thought the Depression was Over
2011:  In All My Glory
2012: 100 Movies
2013: This Might Actually Go OK
2014: Better Late than Never
2015: Lazy Ladies
2016: Sunday Stealing
2017: It's Done
2018: Changing Dynamics
2019: Fear of Buying
Instant Gratification
Saturday 9

Books Read in 2022
 Updated 5/21
"The Rainbow Comes and Goes"
Anderson Cooper
(book #24 in 2022)

My family

Bev's 65 x 365

Books Read in 2022
Books Read in 2021
Books Read in 2020

Books Read in 2019
Books Read in 2018

Books Read in 2017
Books Read in 2016
Books Read in 2015
Books Read in 2014
Books Read in 2013

Books Read in 2012
Books Read in 2011
Books Read in 2010

Cast (updated 7/21)


Some Background Links:
The Philosophy of Juice & Crackers
The story of Delicate Pooh
The story of the Piñata Group
Pumpkin pies
Who IS this Gilbert person anyway?

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23 May 2022

This is Over is over.  I enjoyed the show, but I wasn't as in love with it as many people were.  I found I had difficulty with the generational scenes and trying to figure out who was who and how long things were going on.  I particularly had difficulty with this final season and hated the negativity that cropped up in many episodes.

However, in the next to last episode, Mama Rebecca, who has been fighting Alzheimer's all season (not very well, I didn't think) is now in her last days and everyone has come home to say goodbye.  She is comatose, but thanks to TV we are able to see her final thoughts as she heads toward the end. 

She's on a train, guided by the real father of her adopted son, and as she passes through each car there are the important people in her life, and snippets of their time together and she is able to say goodbye to that person.  When she gets to the caboose, she realizes that this is the end and she is going to finally have to leave and expresses reluctance.

Her guide has this wonderful thing to say:

The way I see it, if something makes you sad when it ends, it must have been pretty wonderful when it was happening. Truth be told, I always felt it a bit lazy to just think of the world as sad, because so much of it is. Because everything ends. Everything dies. But if you step back, if you step back and look at the whole picture, if you're brave enough to allow yourself the gift of a really wide perspective, if you do that, you'll see that the end is not sad. It's just the start of the next incredibly beautiful thing--

Char and I have been discussing the chapters in our lives and how when you get to a certain age and look back, you can see that you have groups of people who are important to you and with whom you interact for a period of time, but then that period ends.  Sometimes it ends sadly, sometimes it just ends.  But soon you find yourself in another chapter of your life with new people and new interests until that, too, ends.

This is Us continues

Each storyline has shown us that no chapter is forever—the good ones end, and so do the bad ones. Life keeps moving, and we move with it. It's a comforting message for anyone experiencing a hard time. Chapters always, always come to a close. --

I think of the chapters of my adult life and the sadness when those chapters end, like the years with The Lamplighters and all the friends I made there and the closeness I felt, which ended with Gilbert's death.  It was very sad that the chapter ended, but it wouldn't have been so sad if the time in the chapter weren't so wonderful.

I think of the chapters here in Davis, during our kids' school years where I had close friends who just kind of weren't there any more when the kids grew up...or the close friends I made when  was working for Women's Health, who disappeared when I left that job.  The time I was in those chapters were wonderful and so there is sadness that the chapters close, but I have the memories of the good days.

What a wonderful chapter Cousins Day was and how much I loved spending a weekend a month with my mother and my two cousins.  The chapter ended slowly, first with Kathy's health preventing her from joining us, then my mother's worsening dementia, and Peach's husband's health which required them to move to Iowa.  Chapters always come to a close.

no chapter is forever—the good ones end, and so do the bad ones.  I think of the bad endings, like my friends Woody and Phil whose friendship ended when Gilbert died, and my friendship with Peggy, which just ended for reasons that she decided to keep secret.  Chapters always, always come to a close.

The bad chapter endings hurt and still kind of do, but remembering all the good parts of the chapter itself make it easier to move on to the next chapter, whatever that is.





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