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2002:  Move Over, Mr. Blackwell
2003:  Lame Duck
2004:  The Bionic Woman
2005:  What Big Teeth You Have
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2007: With Six Do You Get Egg Roll?
2008:  A Dose of Reality
2009:  Cannibalism
2010:  Our Daughter, the Carpenter
2011:  The Brave Little Tailor!
2012: Now This is Just Silly
2013: Jack Bauer Lives

2014: Why Reading the News Makes Me Cry
2015: Today at Logos
2016: The Princess of Procrastination
2017: Customer Service
2018: What If?
2019: That's HOT
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"Earth Abides"
George Stewart
(book #23 in 2022)

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16 May 2022

With the crisis of mothers not being able to find baby formula in stores, and news reports showing empty shelves and interviews with panicked mothers, I posted a simple comment on Facebook that I wondered how many now pregnant women were going to decide to breastfeed now.

It got an almost instant bunch of messages from people defending why they could not breastfeed or why their mothers had not breastfeed them.  The excuses ranged from how many mothers never had milk come in and their children would have starved if they didn't give them formula all the way up to "I got violently ill from breast milk.  It was not an option for my mom."

It's amazing to me how even today breastfeeding is still such a controversial subject.

I went to my first La Leche League meeting when I was pregnant, because a friend was also going and I was curious.  I came home and told Walt it was just a bunch of women sitting around nursing together and I was not interested.

When Jeri was born, I changed my mind and went to a meeting and became one of those women sitting around nursing together.  I went on to become a leader and worked with LLL for seven years, leading meetings, answering questions from people who called, and publishing the newsletter for California and Hawaii. 

I had some interesting situations, like helping the adoptive mother who wanted to breastfeed bring her milk in and be able to breastfeed her adoptive child and organizing a group of nursing mothers to save milk for a baby in the hospital who could not tolerate formula, but whose mother decided not to breastfeed.  (I ultimately collected milk for him through both Tom's and David's babyhood....he turned out to have a very severe condition that would allow him to stay at his birth weight, but not to grow.  He died at 2 and I believe he only weighed 7 lbs at the time, though when his mother brought him to see me, at  18 mos, in one of his rare periods when not in the hospital, he acted like a two year old, waving and playing with toys, though of course could not sit up by himself.

David, who was almost 10 lbs when born, was a newborn at the time and was significantly bigger than Tommy.

I also had interesting telephone conversations.  One was an argument between a husband and his wife, who did not want to wean, though the husband was jealous of the baby at her breasts, which he felt were his and was insisting that she wean. 

There was also an older mother who was terrified of her baby and wanted to be sure to do everything possible for him.  She called me in the middle of the night to ask if I thought her baby was crying because she ate turnips for dinner.

I was nursing in the 60s and early 70s and at that time there was little support for breastfeeding in the medical profession.  Doctor laughed at us and sent new mothers home with formula,  Nurses were told they had to come to our meetings, but paid no attention.  Now things have changed and doctors are supportive and there are even lactation consultants who visit new mothers to make sure that things are going all right.  A lot of the things that people said in response to my Facebook post were conditions that, with proper knowledgeable support, could probably have been overcome.  (Did God really make breastmilk that would kill a baby?)

My feeling was always that I didn't care if you gave your baby breastmilk or formula.  It was every woman's decision and she had to do what was best for her (though if there is no formula available, what's best for her is probably breastfeeding).  I was willing to do what I could to help someone who was having problems, but I wasn't going to insist that she was not a good mother if she didn't breastfeed.

Many of the La Leche League people looked down on bottle feeding mothers and ultimately I left the group because I couldn't handle that feeling.  I'm wondering how everyone feels today...do they still look down on bottle feeding mothers?  Do bottle feeding mothers somehow still feel "less than" because they choose not to breastfeed?  Judging by the tone of the messages I got from my Facebook post, it seems that people are still feeling the need to justify giving their babies a bottle.

As far as I'm concerned, if your baby is healthy and grows up to be a healthy child and adult, however you fed them is OK.


Tom nursing about a month
before David was born.


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