Today in My History

2000:  In a Fog
2001:  Lazy Way Out
2002:  Coming Home
2003:  Baubles, Bangles, Bright Shiny Beads
2004:  Joy to the World
2005:  The Ghost of Christmas Past

The Puppy-Less House
2007:  Cast Off
2008:  I Saw Nicki Kissing Santa Claus
2009:  Guilty until Proven Guilty
2010:  Falling in Love with PhotoShop All Over Again
2011:  Celebrating Christmas
2012: Thursdays at Logos
2013:  Being in the Moment
Sunday Stealing
2015  Sunday Stealing
2016: Who Orders Salmon at a Steakhouse?
2017: Gift List, 2018
2018: OTannenbaum
2019: Saturday 9

2020: A ZOOM Birthday

Books Read in 2021
 Updated 10/29
"Wish You Well" by
David Baldacci

Theater Reviews
Updated 11/23

My family

Bev's 65 x 365

Books Read in 2021
Books Read in 2020

Books Read in 2019
Books Read in 2018

Books Read in 2017
Books Read in 2015
Books Read in 2014
Books Read in 2013

Books Read in 2012
Books Read in 2011
Books Read in 2010

Cast (updated 7/16)

(you know how to fix it)

Some Background Links:
The Philosophy of Juice & Crackers
The story of Delicate Pooh
The story of the Piņata Group
Pumpkin pies
Who IS this Gilbert person anyway?

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Our friend Ellen Pontac died March 15, 2020, just as we were all getting quarantined for the pandemic and so her wife, Shelly Bailes, was not able to host a memorial service for her until now, just a few days before what would have been her 80th birthday.

The memorial was held in the Veterans Memorial building and I knew it would be a  big crowd.  I suppose I should not have been surprised that it was not only a full house, but there was standing room only.  Purple was her favorite color so everything was decorated in purple (and many people wore purple) and they even had chocolate kisses with her picture and quotes by her pasted on them on the table (can you imagine how many little circles of pictures were pasted on kisses?)

...and bottles of water, each with an Ellen label on it.

Everybody had to wear a mask, of course. Shelly's was particularly moving.

Ellen and Shelly (it's hard to separate the two names) were involved in just about everything in Davis.  They were most known for the years' long activism for same sex marriage, so visible that their photos have been published in such publications as Newsweek, The New York Times, Huffington Post, the Los Angeles Times, Wall Street Journal, San Francisco Chronicle and more, including papers in other countries..

But they were involved with meals on wheels, started a holiday dinner for anybody who had no place to go for the holidays (held in the same room where the memorial service was held).  They started the Gay Pride Celebration, were active with the Food Co-op, ushered at the Mondavi Center, and marched with Code Pink.  They went to the county office to attempt to get a marriage license every year on Valentine's day, with several other gay couples and were occasionally threatened by groups of Russian men (the police had to come and remove the Russians). They took a bus from California to DC. before marriage was legalized, with a bunch of other gay couples, stopping at towns all across the country to talk about gay marriage. They demonstrated at the state capitol nearly every weekend.

Their photos on Facebook include photos with Nancy Pelosi, Kamala Harris, Gavin Newsom and other politicians.

When Gavin Newsom made same sex marriage legal in San Francisco, they went to the city and were married by Newsom himself. 

Those marriages were ultimately invalidated, but when they were made legal in the state, Ellen and Shelly were one of the first couples in California to be married.

(I made a wedding cake for them when Massachusetts made marriage legal, then another wedding cake when they were married by Newsom and a final wedding cake for their wedding in 2008.  I told them this was the last wedding cake I was going to make for them!  The couple were together 46 years.)

There were several speakers at the memorial, including Assemblywoman Mariko Yamada and Yolo supervisor Lucas Frerichs, Molly McKay, who was the "Big Kahuna" at Marriage Equality, and a woman who was a caretaker at Burning Man (which Ellen attended for many years)

Today was a day of tears and laughter, and a display of what kind of effect one person from a little town like Davis can have on the world.




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