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5 August 2010
Judge Vaughn Walker did the right thing today. He overturned California's Proposition 8, stating that it was unconstitutional under both the Equal Protection and Due Process clauses of the U.S. Constitution. He said the proposition "fails to advance any rational basis in singling out gay men and lesbians for denial of a marriage license." He then added "...the evidence shows Proposition 8 does nothing more than enshrine in the California Constitution the notion that opposite-sex couples are superior to same sex couples. The Court concludes that Proposition 8 is unconstitutional."
Judge Walker's historic decision doesn't really change anything. The pro-8 people will file an immediate appeal and nothing will be settled completely until the issue is heard by the Supreme Court, but what an air of jubilation permeated all the social media web sites, news shows, and streets of cities across the state this afternoon.
There were jubilant posts to Facebook all afternoon. My friend Jennifer wrote, Seriously, truly, so excited I can't see straight! After going through the process of fingerprinting and an FBI criminal search to *start* the months-long process of getting a name change that would be a simple 2-step process if we were recognized legally, this excites me no end!
Holly wrote: a pre-planned dinner w/Sar and Kym turned into a celebration of love and the occasional triumph of reason in the American judiciary. In an adult life full mostly of political and judicial disappointments, this has been one of the few occasions on which I feel celebration is fully in order.
My friend John wrote, My partner and I (of 30+ years) were married in California on June 17, 2008.
Proposition 8 made it illegal for any further gay marriages to be performed in California. Even though my marriage was grandfathered in, you cannot imagine how it felt.
I know this is just part of an ongoing battle to get gay marriage accepted, and it is STILL not legal in my own home state, but emotionally it is definitely a VERY big deal.
John had his own very personal examples of that "sanctity of marriage" business that Prop 8 supporters are so fond of spouting:
I remember when my sister had her first marriage. She got all her brothers together to let all of us know that SHE had picked the perfect man for the perfect marriage. HER marriage was going to be perfect in every way and was going to last forever because SHE had taken the time to find the PERFECT person, unlike all of us who so clearly had never made any good choices in our lives.
That marriage lasted a bit over a year before falling apart. She now is in her 2nd marriage with a physically abusive husband and two dysfunctional kids.
She invited me to both of her marriages, but never invited my partner (now 34 years together). I guess that was because our relationship was so inferior to her absolutely perfect one(s).
When the police threatened to take her kids away from her if they had to be called to her home one more time for domestic violence reports, she moved to California.
There she was naturally a supporter of Proposition 8. She has always been a firm believer that marriage has to be "saved" by destroying the marriages of gays.
Perhaps if she destroys my marriage the police will stop coming to her house. Maybe her husband will stop beating her. Who knows, perhaps her kids will stop mimicking the violence they have been exposed to all their lives if she succeeds in destroying my marriage.
Somehow I don't think so.
But even if it did, she should have enough morality to realize that one's own happiness is not worth destroying the happiness of others, and destroying the lives of others will not REALLY make her own life any better.
The issue is going to drag on through the courts for probably years. Right now there is a 3 day moratorium on marriage. The pro-8s are hoping to keep the moratorium in place until a decision is finally rendered by the Supreme Court, which merely adds insult to injury. Let's hope the ban on marriage will be lifted this week.
It's only another step toward the full recognition of same sex unions in this country, but every step forward feels like a huge leap toward eventual equality for every tax-paying citizen in this country, no matter what their sexual orientation.
Good going, Judge Walker!!
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