IN MY OPINION
Books Read in 2007
"Thurs at the Nursing Home"
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A FAMILY AFFAIR
20 January 2007
Yesterday was the kind of family day that I'd dreamed of having for a very long time. It seems like it was such a simple thing, but it meant a great deal to me.
My cousin Peach and her husband Bob had gone to my mother's the day before and were staying for a couple of days. We made arrangements to meet them at the nursing home and then Peach invited me back to the house for dinner and mentioned that Ed, my mother's stepson, would be joining us for dinner. Ed and my mother get together at least once a week, to have dinner and watch CSI. Over the past couple of years, Ed has become friends with Peach and Bob, who occasionally spend a week at my mother's house.
It felt like being invited to join what had felt, until now, like an exclusive club.
With no puppies to care for, Walt decided to join me on the trip this day and so we drove to the nursing home where we visited with my mother until Peach and Bob arrived. Walt and I went out to get a quick lunch and when we returned, the others had already moved to the rec room, where they were involved in their favorite activity: playing cards.
My mother has been passionate about games of all kinds for my entire life and she is a fierce competitor who gets upset (good naturedly) when things are not going well for her.
Walt and I joined the second game. It was a game the three of them play all the time and I have played once before and Walt has never played. You play for money (high stakes--65 cents) and with newbie luck, Walt and I won most of the hands, and I won the pot at the end.
("I've been sick," my mother would whine, trying to pull out her trump card. We wouldn't let her get away with it.)
There was much laughter throughout the game, and it was just a lot of fun.
There was a singing group which was entertaining patients in the room next door, and we all sang along with them as we played.
At the end of the afternoon, we moved my mother back to her room and returned to her house, where Peach had planned a dinner for all of us. We sat around trying to work up a schedule for who would be available to help my mother when she is released from the nursing home next Friday and got the start of a calendar going.
After Ed arrived, we sat around the dinner table, which seemed very strange without my mother at its head, and we laughed a lot, talked a lot and just enjoyed a fun evening.
When my mother married her second husband, a man with three grown children, I had envisioned that the two families would blend and share some social events together, but for one reason or another, that never happened. Over the years I've just resigned myself to my mother having two families, which never meshed.
It's a strange thing to think that after all these years (they were married 18 years and her husband has been dead for about 11 years), it has taken a broken ankle to finally get the two branches of the family to work together.
I don't know how this is all going to go, but I am enjoying having "siblings" of a sort, again, for the first time since my sister died in 1971.
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