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GETTING BY WITH A LITTLE HELP FROM MY FRIENDS

25 February 2003

I truly love the Internet. I swear it if weren't for the Internet, I would have given up on this new lifestyle long ago.

Last week after my weigh-in, I was too embarrassed to talk to my leader, who weighed me in, and I didn't stay for the meeting. But I knew I had e-mail, so I wrote to her when I got home. "Has this ever happened to you?" I wailed, bemoaning the fact that I had been on an eating kick and didn't know how to stop it.

She took two days to return my message, and had obviously given it a lot of thought. Her words were very supportive. She went into great deal, revealing her own personal history and then offered, I still let myself get somewhat out of control with eating - though counting it - but it feels more like a choice. I know that I'm doing it - but not always WHY. I must go to my WW meetings so that I don't just rely on my own thoughts, but I can then absorb the positive messages and support that is there for me. I think you will find that coming back to the meeting each week will help you a lot, Bev. Just don't give up. Oh, and go to the WeightWatchers.com message board for "stress and overeating." That is a good one. Take care of yourself. You are special and maybe need to be reminded.

Before she had the chance to respond, I'd already received a kick in the butt from Australia. Peggy gave me a goal weight. "I don't want you to be any heavier than that when you get here," she said, saying that weight would give us the opportunity to eat whatever we wanted without having to worry about weight gain. Yes, ma'am! (Peggy has been through WeightWatchers and reached her goal weight. I'm proud of her!)

Then came the letter from our mutual friend who is struggling with her own WeightWatchers program and discouraged that she's on a plateau. I was put in the position of giving her back the encouragement she's given to me so often--pointing out to her that she'd lost forty pounds, for heaven's sake, that she was so certain she'd never be able to lose anything. As she did to me months ago, I was able to tell her to go to a grocery store and pick up something that weighs 40 lbs and realize that she is no longer carrying it around on her body.

I also promised her that if she loses the 11 lbs she's struggling with now, that I'd fly to visit her and we'd do something special to celebrate.

At the same time, my friend Joan, who lives in Davis, has been adamant that I and a mutual friend, also here in Davis, are not going to give up on our plans. Joan has been so faithful at following the WW plan, even through some of her physical problems in the past months and her ability to stick with it (to say nothing of her creative gourmet recipes!) have made me feel like I'd be letting her--and our mutual friend--down if I give up. Our paths almost never cross in person, but we stay in contact via e-mail.

And then there are people who read this journal who write me wonderful e-mails, either encouraging or empathizing. People I've never met, some of whom I never even knew were readers.

Gail wrote: I read you everyday. This day's journal entry is the very ones I love the most because, what you share of your feelings about food and emotions, are just how I feel about food and emotions. What you communicate helps me to understand myself and the sickness of addiction to food. Self hate. Jeannie adds, I really identified with your entry about your day's eating and your counting of points. I also know that once I start eating , it is really nigh on to impossible to stop. I have always been that way. Katherine signed the guest book: I liked your phrase "eating molecules." I'm plagued by those devils too and am the daughter of an alcoholic who was in denial even after she stopped drinking (she "wasn't like other alcoholics").

There is something so helpful in discovering that you aren't unique, that there are others out there who understand exactly what you've expressed and who are making the same struggle. ...please share more of your struggle and victories with us regarding food addiction. Your feeling and thoughts mean a lot to me and please keep up the honesty it encourages me to be honest with myself.

Now how can I give up after that? If there was ever an incentive to stay honest, to keep going with the struggle it's that.

Even if nobody ever wrote to me after an entry, I have other people's journals to inspire me--people like Marn and Mary who are my exercise heroes, Haggie and Terri who are my biking heroes, and Mary (Bozoette) who often seems to be my weight issue twin, and people like Cecily and Dez, who have been writing "Days of our Thighs" (love the title) for several months. Their ups and downs are inspiring.

There are lots of ways to change your life, and the Internet has brought us all into the same circle. It seems that when one of us is down, another of us is there to pick that person up and keep us all going.

I am so very, very grateful to everybody who reads this journal, to everyone who writes to me, to everyone who cares enough to notice--You are all a huge part of why I've lost so much, and why I refuse to give up.

Thank you!


Thanks for your nomination of Funny the World for a Diarist.net Legacy award, of all things. You can find all the nominees here. Congratulations to all the other nominees--especially my buddies Haggie and Marn. If you have a journal, support the community and be sure to vote.

Quote of the Day

True friendship starts the moment one person says to another, "What? You too? I thought I was the only one!"

~ Unknown

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It's good to have friends

One Year Ago
Things I can't say
When people talk with me about their fears for their kids, or tell me that they just don't know what to do, I no longer have any answers. At one point I got too complacent. I thought we'd figured out how to cope, how to help, how to support, how to get the kids through crises.

Two Years Ago
Celebrations
I don’t ride a bike any more. It would be great exercise for me, but I’m acutely aware of what I’d look like on a bicycle and embarrassment keeps me off.

Bwahahahah....!  I've changed!


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Pounds Lost:  70
(this figure is updated on Tuesdays)

On the Odometer

URL Total 741.6
Blue Angel Total 696.2
2003 YTD Cumulative:  209.8

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